People Peasers of the World: PLEASE STOP.
I've had this in my head for a while, and I've been hesitant to talk about it. Like most things I spew onto the webpages of this here blog, it's deeply personal and rather uncomfortable to talk about. But, also much like most of the things on this blog, I see no reason to fear the discomfort. What I am is afraid of hurting people's feelings. I've always been afraid of that. It is my biggest fear. Because of that I have spent a good part of my life being a people pleaser. That said, I think people pleasers are sad, miserable people who will never meet their true potential because they hold themselves back. I think most of us can sort of agree with that, right? Whether it be failure or speaking in front of a crowd, our fears hold us back. People pleasing is just the fear of hurting other people's feelings or disappointing an imaginary ideal we believe other people have of us. I've noticed lately, which is one of the reasons I want to write thi...